| Wednesday, June 01, 2005 |
| TESTING YOUR FEELINGS WITH YOUR PARTNER |
EMOTIOMAL NEEDS AND DESIRES QUESTIONNAIRE.
(Take this short quiz and ask your partner to do so also, then after finishing, try to compare notes and see what happens)
This excerpt from one of Dr. Renshaw's questionnairs is designed to help couples identify some of their emotional needs and desire and show how one partner's needs match or contradict each others.
After each question, circle the reponse that most closely matches what is True for you right now.
I feel insecure without my partner:a)always b)nearly c)sometimes d)rarely e)never f)not applicable.
My partner feels my untidiness is a problem: a)always b)nearly always c)sometimes d)rarely e)never f)not applicable.
When I'm upset, it comforts me to be held by my partner:a)always b)nearly always c)sometimes d)rarely e)never f)not applicable.
I depend on my partner, although I have negative feelings about being dependent: a)always b)nearly always c)sometimes d)rarely e)never f)not applicable.
For me, sensual touch is the same as sexual touch: a)always b)nearly always c)sometimes d)rarely e)never f)not applicable.
Children are a source of conflict: a)always b)nearly walways c)sometimes d)rarely e)never f)not applicable.
I hold back from displaying my feelings with my partner: a)always b)nearly always c)sometimes d)rarely e)never f)not applicable.
THE RELATIONSHIP CRISSCROSS QUETIONNAIRE.
This exercise will help your unconscious, inner perceptions of your relationship to surface. It will also help you explore whether your assumptions about your partner's point of view are accurate.
Circle the best answers that best matches your feelings.
Ask your partner to do the same and you'll be surprised at what you read.
I think our relationship is:a)very happy b)happy c)unhappy d)very unhappy.
My partner thinks our relationship is: a)very happy b)happy c)unhappy d)very unhappy.
When disagreements arise, I think:
a)i usually give in.
b)my partner usually gives in.
c)we mutually agree.
When it comes to social activites and recreation, I think:
a)we do too much.
b)we do just enough.
c)we should do more.
When it comes to social activites and recreation, my partner thinks:
a)we do too much
b)we do just enough
c)we should do more
If I could live my life over, I would marry:
a)the same person
b)a different person
c)not at all
If my partner could live his or her life over, I think he or she would marry:
a)me
b)a different person
c)not at all
I want my partner to be a certain kind of person:
a)always
b)frequently
c)sometimes
d)never
My partner wants me to be a certain kind of person:
a) always
b)frequently
c)sometimes
d)never
(abstracted from the work of Dr.Domeena Renshaw/ copyright2004) |
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