| Sunday, July 25, 2004
| WHAT YOU(MEN) DO THAT PISSES WOMEN OFF
|(abstracted from an article from Cosmopolitan by: Jennifer Benjamin)
"You and a girl are having a good time when she suddenly swithes in bitch mode. You're thinking, Huh?Where did I go wrong?Truth is, it was probably something inadvertent, so stop scratching your head. Here, we reveal the seeming innocent mistakes men make."
YOU RUSHED DINNER
No matter how hungry you are, when you're at a nice restaurant with a chick or having a meal she made, don't scarf down your food in seconds flat."Eating together is a bonding activity for women", says Peter Post, author of Essential Manners for Men, " she wants you to spend ome time with you. When you race through the meal, it makes her feel as if you don't really want to be there." Let her know you're enjoying yourself by slowing down.
YOU DIDN'T GET THE HINT
When you're in the mood, you practically hump her leg, but women thow out subtler signals, "If you don't take the bait, she thinks you're not interested in having sex with her", says Carole Altma PhD, author of Don't Have Sex Until You Read Capter 15. More likely, you simply werent paying attention. Keep an eye on those seduction techniques. She touches you more, wears something skimpier to bed, or mentions her visit to the bikini waxer.
YOU GAVE HER ADVICE
Women love to vent. But when your girl friend has a problem, she doesn't always wants you to solve it."She just want support and symphathy," says Linda Austin, psychiatrist and author of Heart of the Matter. "Overwhelm her with advice and she feels lectured, not listened to."The next time she unloads about her crappy day, keep your thoughts to yourself and try this instead: "I'm sorry, honey. That really sucks".
YOU BLEW ALL YOUR ENERGY ON THE BOYS
If you rage with the guys until 4am, shed not going to be happy if you pass out before 10pm with her. "When you manage to get it together for your friends but can't give her the same energy, she feels like you use her as a recuperation companion," says Dr. Austin. It's all about balance. Make sure you're really psyched when you meet up with your girl.
YOU DRESSED LIKE A SLOB
How hard is it to put on a clean pair of pants and an ironed shirt? Not very. Still, many of you (men) will show up looking like you rolled out of bed. "By neglecting your appearance, you're sending her a message that you don't care about the night, " warns Post. "Plus, a sloppy look can be a turn off for women"Hello !! That means no sex for you later.
OUR (WOMEN) NAKED TRUTH
Men aren't the only ones holding back.
Dirty Secret:Only 29 Pct of women always orgasm during sex.
Dirty Secret:About 40 Pct of women have climaxed while asleep.
Dirty Secret:80 Pct of women fabtasize about sex with womeone than their partner.
Source: THE KINSEY INSTITUTE. The Journal of Sex Research
|posted by infraternam meam @ 4:12 AM